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Archive for February, 2011


Friday, February 11th, 2011

Ah, if I could only get the universe to follow me on twitter, my week would have been a lot easier; alas, no dice.  However, I remarked just this morning that I’m always startled and amazed to have made it through yet another week, alive, in tact, and still breathing!

As I pen this before I go back to my powerpoint slides, yet again…just wanted to share with you a thought, if you’ve had a week like mine.

Fear not!  You’re not alone.  EVERYONE has good days and bad.  And, without the universe fighting you, you’d not quite appreciate when things DO go your way.  We tend to forget this while kung fu’ing the world in order to get stuff done.  But I’m here to post this as a friendly Friday reminder, to all my awesome blogsters, and most of all, to remind myself.

Happy #Friday!

The Definition of Insanity, and Change

Wednesday, February 9th, 2011

The definition of insanity, according to some, is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.  But, it is easy.  In fact, it is a heck of a lot easier than change.  Change can be absolutely crazy!

Case in point, all my friends at law school.  We’re all insane with change right now.  One of my friends is moving, twice in the next month–and working, and of course going to law school.  Another friend is working out every day of the week, plus working full time and going to school at night, in order to get herself fit.  And another friend is less than 9 months pregnant, but after 2 weeks of bed rest, back to school to at least get on with things and back to her day job…and when the baby comes, she’s cleared to go.

Doing the same thing over and over again might be stupid, but sounds relaxing at times.  But the disruption, change, and accompanied chaos is also a good thing too.  Even though it feels nuts–going through all the change–it is a good thing.  As a person on a journey, it helps you grow.

To all my friends with their crazy lives–as my mom says, “this too, shall pass” – hang in there, and I’m rooting for ya!

Conflict Management Styles: Foxy!

Wednesday, February 9th, 2011

One thing that always amazes me about students is that they LOVE personality tests!  That to me is AWESOME, because I always tell them–it is your job to know you better than anyone else.  Socrates said it, and so do I!

We used this test in one of the classes yesterday here at the pharmacy school.  I am a fox.  (Sorry, Walrus is not a choice on this one.)   Conflict management style is a good one to know, because hey–we’re all going to be faced with conflict at one point or another in our lives–personally, professionally, and otherwise!

Interestingly, most pharmacists tend to be owls.  What are you?  Find out, and study you…you can be your very own anthropologist!

Slashing, and Saving the Day

Tuesday, February 8th, 2011

So, attended one of my law classes today and we talked about a trainwreck case (as usual).  But, the professor did an interesting thing after we looked at the case – s/he asked – WHERE did this company go wrong?  Then the professor put up a slide with three different buckets in it – 1. legal, 2. marketing and 3. engineering.  Each was in its own bubble.  They all pointed to ‘the company’, which was a separate bubble.

Then s/he stated that the problem was definitely a LACK of communication between the 3 departments.  Legal clearly didn’t know what the programmers were doing, marketing wanted everything done yesterday, and no one really talked to the lawyers of the company because all they ever said was no.

He then asked, HOW do we fix this problem?

Easy!  I put my paw up and told him what I’ve been touting here all along: you get professionals that have expertise in MORE THAN ONE AREA – aka, the slash!  Instead of hiring just a lawyer, you hire a lawyer with an engineering background.  Instead of just a marketer, you hire one that has also crunched some code.  This was clearly obvious here, and got me thinking that…

The slash can actually (at least in this case) SAVE a company money!  Why?  Because they can speak to different groups within the company.  They have street cred with multiple departments, because they’re educated and have lived in multiple departments.

Message to employers in big corporate America – you should be looking at every hybrid degree earner in the land to hire, instead of a person having JUST ONE area of technical knowledge.  Most law schools have dual degrees now.  MBA/JD, MPH/JD, etc.  Heck, even most pharmacy schools now have dual degrees – PharmD/MBA or PharmD/JD.  Why pay for two people with two different skill sets, when you instead can pay one who has BOTH?  Also, when are all the grad school ranking organizations going to get smart and start ranking DUAL degree programs?

As for employees…?  You’d better have more than one professional educational gig going now…all eggs in one career basket is a recipe for disaster.

In the case we studied today, a culture of hiring more hybrids, slashes, multiple career people (whatever you want to call them) could have saved this company millions and one very nasty, long arduous law suit.  More hybrids who can talk to each other can truly, in a company, save the day!

The Ladies of Page 265

Monday, February 7th, 2011

So, tonight, got the first batch of books for Single. Women. Entrepreneurs.  YAY!  I always love tearing open the first box of books – it is truly a super cool moment in the life of a writer.

And, I decked out the book launch kits tonight for the ladies IN the book (they each get a copy) but I also sent a couple of copies out into the universe to some of my personal ladies of page 265.

What’s on page 265, you might ask?  Well, you’re just going to have to read the book and find out.  But there’s some pretty big names on my own personal list of women on page 265…if you ever want to know who they are, just ask.

Thanks to NAWBO National for featuring this book in their online publication to all their members this week, Focus!  I’ve been trying to pare down my organizations this year, because I don’t have time for them.  However, NAWBO is one of the last I’d ever let go.  Why?  Simply because they HELP other women who dare to start businesses.  It’s gutsy and takes moxy to start and run a business, and NAWBO gets it!

Last but not least, one of the youngest single women entrepreneurs in the book, Becky Ruby of lilly lane flowers was kind enough to post her thoughts on being part of the book on her own blog, which you can read here. Don’t let her fool you, either.  She knows what she’s doing.  I think ALL the women in the book know what they’re doing, except maybe for the author of it.  (Yes, moi.)

But that’s OK.  That’s part of the writing experience for me.  I get to learn and then share my learning with the world.  That’s a personal mark of success to me – being able to have the ability to learn and share, and I’m so EXCITED to host this book launch party and bring these amazing women together.  It will truly be a once in a lifetime event!

If you read the book and get to page 265, I’d be curious to know who your own women are of the page. Shoot me an email and let me know!

Book Tribes

Sunday, February 6th, 2011

Instead of spending my time making sure my cites are Bluebooked for my law review note (not my fave, can ya tell?) I thought I’d talk instead about something important around being a writer/author of a book, and here it is.  Have. A. Tribe. For. Your. Book.

Seth Godin talks about this all the time, but I thought it was worth mentioning again, with a local (Indy) flavor.  You should be building in a tribe or already have a tribe for your book.  If you self publish, you already know this is critical.  But, even if you’re going the traditional publishing route…?  The publisher still wants to know if you’ve got a built in tribe to buy your book before they’ll sign you up.

I’m still building my tribe for my new book (but this is a cool cadre of awesome women to get into my own network and a genuine pleasure!)  But I thought I’d shut up about me tonight, and share with you some of my writer friends who also have awesome tribes around their books, and in which I argue you should consider joining their tribes, if the issues are of interest to you.  Here goes!

Dr. Elaine Voci -she, hands down, is my writing book mentor!  She’s written several books, but my favorite of hers is: Bridge Builders: Ordinary Women Doing Extraordinary Things – her tribe is awesome people doing awesome things, hidden in the every day experience.  LOVE it and love her!

Peter Dunn AKA Pete The Planner – author of 60 Days to Change: A Daily How-To Guide With Actionable Tips for Improving Your Financial Life, Pete’s got a tribe he’s building around smart money management. You should consider following him if you hate to part with your money (and who doesn’t?) He also has a radio show called The Skeptical Economist.  Check him out if money is your thing.

Lori Leroy – author of the new book, The Inadequate Conception: From Barry White to Blastocytes: What Your Mom Didn’t Tell You About Getting Pregnant. Infertility is a huge issue these days, and Lori isn’t afraid to share her challenges with getting pregnant, in order to help others.  There’s a big tribe out there on this, and congrats to Lori for daring to write this book!

Nancy Ahlrichs – author of several books, but her most recent is: Igniting Gen B & V: The New Rules of Engagement for Boomers, Veterans, and Other Long-Termers on the Job.  Nancy is great at best understanding how different generations can work best together…and I love that she’s taking the time to make sure that others take advantage of understanding each other in the workplace!

Ingrid Cummings - The Vigorous Mind: Cross-train Your Brain to Break Through Mental, Emotional, and Professional Boundaries – Ingrid’s tribe wants to do better, period.  Who doesn’t want that?  EVERYONE wants that!  Read her book to better understand HOW.

Mickey Maurer – Mr. Maurer (although he hates it when I call him that, but I do out of respect!) has a new book out called: 19 Stars of Indiana.  If you know Indy, you already know Mr. Maurer; however, his new book is the counterpart to his first book on 19 Women Stars of Indiana! He, no doubt, has a super sonic tribe that maybe one day I’ll get close to approaching…

I have a LOT of other book writing friends, but I wanted to share with you some of my local friends who dare to share their thoughts via writing…and their tribes!  So, if you’ve been on that fence, thinking about writing a book, you’d better stop and ask: do I have a tribe for this?

If not, get to building!

Managing Multiple Yous

Friday, February 4th, 2011

I’ve always wanted an Erin Splitter.  Still haven’t found one.  However, between this TED video I saw this week by cyber anthropologist Amber Case, and talking in class yesterday about how to manage one’s career, I saw a theme that I wanted to share with my most awesome readers ever on this blog, because it is important!

We are now, technically, living in a split world.  We have our first world, where we all run about our daily business, as our person, in the ‘real’ world.  However, we also have a second world, the digital world, where we ALSO roll.  Facebook/Twitter/cell phones/texting, blah blah blah allows us to create a SECOND self.

So, what to do?  Well, just like our first lives, we must be cognizant and manage our second life as well (no pun intended to the site by the same name).  For example, I shared with my students yesterday how to set up an auto google vanity search of their name, so they can check what is out there on the internet on themselves, on a regular basis.  In my mind, I don’t view this as vain at all–I instead view it as a necessity.  I’ve been misquoted, and I’ve found other people with my same name who have done things that I would NEVER do (good, bad, or otherwise).

Ms. Case makes an interesting point, which I will make note to begin sharing with all my students: for the first time in history, because of our technology, we really ARE split, in many senses. We almost can be two places at once, and yes, we have two selves now, instead of just one, to manage.

Guess that Erin Splitter really did arrive, I just didn’t notice!

ps – found this company via CBS Sunday Morning, started by a lawyer, that manages online reps!

Using The Force

Thursday, February 3rd, 2011

Had a very interesting day today.  Busy, a lot of work, and back to work after the icy extravaganza mother nature threw down this week. But there definitely was a theme to today, and I’ll try and articulate it next.

Started with a controversial post I put on facebook about some Arizona legislation which you can read about here.  I asked the question via fbook: is this unconstitutional?  Then, a friend in my network responded, and before I could even see her/his post, another friend with a very different point of view emailed to let me know they’d be shutting off my facebook feed, because my friends have very different points of view they found offensive.

What I found most interesting in this, you may ask?  Interestingly, I was faced with the exact same scenario about a week ago.  Someone in my network posted something I personally found very offensive about an issue that our own Supreme Court has settled on fbook.  However, I had a choice after that post: should I shut this person off, or defend my position publicly, or privately, or do nothing?  Then, I thought about Egypt, of all places and things.

Here’s the thing.  The United States of America (or US of Awesome, as I like to call it) was founded on the very principles that Egypt is fighting for and we already are taking for granted, even with facebook:  that in this country, we have the amazing right to voice our personal opinions.  We have the right to get embroiled in controversial topics, debate, discuss, challenge, and AGREE to DISAGREE, if nothing else!  THAT, my friends, is truly what makes this country AWESOME.  And, when we start censoring things, well, we end up like countries that are at war, battling for freedoms that we already enjoy.  (For example – China really doesn’t have facebook, so these conversations couldn’t really ever happen in the first place!)

So, I decided to keep my friend and his/her feed up on Facebook, if for no other reason, than to agree to disagree with him/her, and know that I have a RIGHT to do so in this country.  And, while I’m sorry I lost a friend and his/her communication, I WANT and WELCOME a variety of friends with different points of view in my network.  What a vanilla world this would be if all agreed on everything!

Next, I saw something SUPER cool on Facebook, which I then decided to use in the classroom before my communications class in one of the courses I taught tonight: THIS commercial! I showed it at the beginning of the evening and asked the students what the kid was missing….besides the force.  First answer was: gloves.  Second answer?  He lacked COMMUNICATION SKILLS!  It was the perfect segway into a discussion on what good communication looked like for health care professionals with patients and other HCPs.  I was glad my network had posted it on Facebook, and it was the perfect way to start off the evening’s discussion.

So, friends and non-friends, on facebook or not, I just wanted to say that overall, I find social media as a general force for good.  I use the social media force to COMMUNICATE with my peeps–peeps who I agree with, AND disagree with.  I will always welcome controversy as well, because if law school has taught me nothing else, it is that there’s always at least 2, if not more, sides to a story and differing opinions. Furthermore: controversy and change tend to be buddies, and the one thing that is inevitable in this world, beyond death and taxes, is change.

That’s what makes America great.  And I’m not going to censor stuff just because I don’t agree with it.  I shall agree to disagree.

Maxim-ice-ing Snow Days

Wednesday, February 2nd, 2011

Well, day two plus of the arctic ice storm that’s rocking the Midwest – but I have to say, I couldn’t have planned the days in better if I tried.  I am SO GRATEFUL the past two days I’ve been shut in at home, because I got so much done!

Best part of my day today wasn’t shoveling off my driveway, nor even my desk.  It instead was promoting the 30 women in the brand new book!  Today I had the chance to send each gal in the book a note on each gal’s unique contribution to the book.  It feels truly awesome to be able to help 30 other women promote and grow their very own businesses!

As for maximizing your next snow day (which I have a feeling will be soon for some of my friends out east) instead of watching bad cable TV and being ‘bored’, I’d like to challenge you to instead take that reset time to figure out a way to try and help others.  Maybe it is as simple as writing a thank you note, or as complex as writing a book.  Anywhere on either end or in between will make you appreciate your snow day that much more!

And as a random side note, I’m STILL trying to finish my law review note.  If you’re out there in cyber world and have completed and published a law review note, but not yet a book–I’m also going to give you a separate challenge, which is this: why not?  WRITE. A. BOOK. If you’ve always wanted to.  Trust me when I say–I’ve written parts or all of 6 books now (2 while in law school) – writing a book is a heck of a lot easier than writing a law review note.  Mainly because I don’t like formatting my cites into some mold.  And in my books?  The formatting-law-book-which-shall-not-be-named is BANNED from all citations!

Age Appropriate

Tuesday, February 1st, 2011

Ok, being part of this arctic tundra today and shut in tomorrow, I was relatively productive.  However, I kind of fell off a productive (icy) cliff tonight and vegitated in front of the TV.  Just finished watching a campy movie about turning 16.  Honestly, I can’t quite recall my own 16th birthday, but I then started thinking about “big” birthdays.

Age 7 – for some reason, turning 7 was some type of magical number to my grandmother.  Between all the grandkids, we each had a big day out with grandma, anything we wanted from a store up to a certain limit (jackpot!) and dinner out with her.  Why was 7 a big deal?  I don’t honestly know.  I never asked her.  But I do recall fleeting moments of the day.

Age 16 – sweet 16.  Supposed to be a biggie.  Again, I can’t remember mine.  Must not have been that big of a deal…

Age 21 - all of us in the U.S. understand why this is a big birthday.  Not that we ever drank before then.  That would be illegal and wrong.  But, I vaguely remember turning 21.  There was etoh involved…but that doesn’t mean I’m encouraging drinking.  I’m not.

Age 29 - the age I’m currently stuck at.  The first…?  Can’t totally recall, either.  Maybe because it was so long ago (ha!)  But for a woman, I think turning 29 is a pretty big deal.  It’s really technically the last year that you can get away without actually acting like an adult all the time.  And really, at 30, you’re officially all grown up.

Age 30 - a big deal to women.  Panic may ensue a bit, especially if a woman is really interested in having kids and doesn’t yet even have a good date nailed down for the weekend.  This was not a huge concern for me then, and it still isn’t today.

Age 39 – as I posted here previously, although I’m still 29 at heart, this past summer I turned 39…in Beijing, China.  Pretty cool birthday, and I liked being out of my element while turning 39.  I can’t say I’ve had the midlife crisis panic attack just yet, but maybe it is right around the corner….?

Age 40 – is this the age by which one can’t call themselves a ‘young professional’ anymore?  I don’t know.  I guess if the average woman in the U.S. lives to age 80, it technically is midlife.  Not sure.  Both of my grandmothers lived longer than that – one into her 90s and the other into her late 80s.  I’m headed to Italy to celebrate the big 4-0 this year, a la very Eat, Pray Love-esque.

Some women have told me that age 40 is awesome, because it was the first time that they actually felt like they knew who they finally were, and were comfortable with themselves.  I don’t know if I’m cool with this or not–because I don’t always have a firm grasp on who I am, nor yet who I am to be.  But I’m excited by the prospects of what could be possible, for the next half-plus of my life.

Hopefully, I’ll be age appropriate.