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When An Alpha Chick Should Considering Going Beta

Sunday, November 27th, 2016

screen-shot-2016-11-27-at-4-03-43-pmI kind of posted this as a joke this weekend over at faceplace: 7 Important Things to Know Before Dating an Alpha Female.  Although, a lot of it is true.

As a self-proclaimed Alpha Chick myself with a football stadium full of hard limits and high interest in investing my time, most of the time, in anything else BUT dating, I can attest to the fact that we are not easy. We’re complicated. We definitely don’t like being told what to do (most of the time, anyway), and we definitely know what we like and don’t like – and the cherry on top: we are stubborn.

Not an easy brew to swallow.

But, ladies, in retaliation or response to the article above, I’d like to humbly suggest that sometimes, we should consider going beta.  Here are a few times when downshifting might be in order:

When an Alpha Chick Should Consider Going Beta:

1. When he’s trying, give him a shot – In a swipe left or right world, the dating universe is brutal…BRUTAL. I. TELL. YOU.  (No, I’ve never been on Tinder, and have zero aspirations to do so…but I’ve heard horror stories.) And, props to a dude who can stick out his neck and dare to ask a woman, let alone an alpha woman out.  If he’s bold enough to step up and ask, why not give him a chance?  You’ll know pretty quickly into the date or hang out session (do people date anymore?) whether or not he’s going to get a chance #2 anyway, which leads me to…

2. When he asked you out, let him plan it - Don’t get super pushy here. He’s again trying, props to him for that.  Try on what he likes and see what he suggests.  Hang back and let him either shine or fizzle out. And sometimes, the choice he comes up with may be even better than any suggestion you could have imagined anyway.  If he tries to pull you to a monster truck rally, why not experience it once? Then you can check it off your bucket list and move on…

3. When he’s happy to see you, reciprocate - It’s ok to get a little gushy.  I know, I know, hard for us hard core ladies to do, out there slaying dragons all day with our game faces on, but you can slip into beta and show him that you’re excited to see him as well! It’s NOT WEAKNESS. It’s actually a STRENGTH.  Your energy is powerful, so make sure you’re putting out the right kind around those whom you care most about, and maybe just get it back in return.

4. When he’s an expert at something that you’re not, learn from him – Get beta by getting curious about his expertise or hobby. Ask him a lot of questions. Get to know something about his interests.  If you’re a true alpha, you’re naturally curious about the world anyway, so this arena shouldn’t be too hard to go into beta on… Constant learning and not being an expert at something is beta first, then alpha – so go BETA and learn something from the brother!  (Besides, most alpha chicks crushed on at least one previous teacher or professor.)

5. Doors, handkerchiefs, and paws – Old fashioned in these 3 arenas is still white hot in many alpha’s minds. One alpha chick purported that around doors, she pretends her arms are broken to let men get ahold them for her. A guy who hands you his handkerchief when you got something caught in your eye (or you were crying, god forbid) is flat out chivalrous (unless he was the guy who made you cry too, but most alphas never let ding dongs like that see us cry).  And, hold the guy’s paw or arm!  It’s OK. Besides, it will keep him from digging around and texting/checking Tinder while he’s under your spell – LOL! (If he’s that interested in checking Tinder, you won’t be putting up with him for very long, anyway.)

Again, I’m no dating expert. I barely do it myself. But, I do know a thing or two about being an alpha.  Sometimes, however, it’s OK to go beta. And to my sisters out there in AlphaLand – you don’t always have to be alpha ALL the time–you can pull it back a little once in a while…and while I don’t agree with all of the article above, I do agree with bullet #7:

we ARE worth the hassle!

Tools for Getting My $#!% Together for 2017

Friday, November 25th, 2016

screen-shot-2016-11-25-at-4-36-54-pmI am a woman who normally likes to be organized.

Not about everything. In fact, I’m sitting in my recording studio/closet and frankly, it’s a mess.  But that’s not what is important to me.

What IS important are my goals/feelings/aura and objectives for 2017.

This is where I don’t have my !@#$% together yet. But I’m working on it.  And with 2016 nearing its end quickly, I thought I’d share some of the tools I’m using to plan ahead with you, so that you, too, can get your !@#$% together for 2017.

Tools to get my !@#$ Together for 2017:

1. Designing Your Life - I love this book. It made me pause and take inventory on the stuff that really gives me energy, and the stuff that drains me.  It’s refining my mind mapping technique a bit too.

2. My new Moleskine – Actually, I cheat and buy these in bulk when they (rarely) go on sale – but trust me, I’ve got a brand spanking new one lined up for 2017 to store my brain dumps, to-do lists, notecards and thank you cards with postage when I’m on the go.

3. Your Best Year 2017 – I have zero clue if this book is good yet or not, but I ordered it today. After all, what could it hurt?  I think the more clear we can get on the year ahead, the better off we can plan ahead, set goals, and them implement them!

4. The Desire Map – This one is good for you to focus not on your goals specifically, but how you want to FEEL throughout your life and times. This one is good for those of us who are left brained, analytical thinkers.

5. Change Your Aura Change Your Life – I had a picture taken of my aura a decade or so ago in Sedona.  It was more of a gag than for real.  But, I do think there is some merit to chakras, meditation, and focusing on what you want–specifically the energy that can flow into you based upon what energy you put out.  So, I’m working on my chakras for 2017 too.  It’s part of my “Get Erin Albert’s !@#$%! together plan.

There. I freely admit when I’m building stuff.  And the biggest construction of all I’m working on for 2017 right now – myself.

p.s. Do you live in the Indianapolis area and want more hands-on training on how to get your 2017 career development goals together? Meet us at Healthcare Businesswomen’s Association’s kickoff event in 2017, 1/11/17 at Eli Lilly and Company! Here’s the registration form.

Cool Stuff from the Land of Medical Science Liaisons

Tuesday, November 22nd, 2016

There’s some cool stuff going on in the world of Medical Science Liaisons, of which I still watch and support!  In fact, I need to address this cool gig in a pharmacy podcast in 2017…I’ve promised the audience this, and I will be delivering on my promises.

In the meantime, here are some things going on in the land of the MSLs:

1. *EyeforPharma: Reinventing Medical Affairs – As the role changes, so too does the emphasis of the role.  Check out the report at Eye for Pharma about this.

2. The Annual MSL benchmarking Survey – TriNet Pharma is running its annual MSL survey right now.  Contact them and fill it out if you’re a MSL.

3. Medical Affairs Board Certification – ACMA is now offering BCMAS – the Board Certified Medical Affairs Specialist.  I’ll be the first one to admit that I know the least about this – but I will be checking it out in 2017 for the MSL masses.

Pharmacists are still a huge part of field based medical affairs…and I think there’s now more opportunity than ever in this arena. More to come on it in 2017, and if you love drug info and communication as a pharmacist, PhD, or MD, consider this role for yourself.

*This part of the post is sponsored.

My Ode…to Snail Mail

Thursday, November 17th, 2016

screen-shot-2016-11-17-at-4-01-35-pmI’ve said it more than once here: I’m a big fan of penned letters. Thank you cards? Total sucker for them. They are on my wall of fame in my office at home, and just behind me above my clock at my work office–both places where I look–often. I rarely, if ever, throw them away.  (And I’m not really a hoarder of things or stuff…but I am of these for some reason. And yes, I still have my notes from high school too.)

Read this over at HuffPo too, and I agree. With all of it.

Do you think Darcy would have sent Elizabeth Bennet a text if he had the option?  Lord, I hope not. Do you think Gandhi’s letter about peace to Hitler would have been better suited for an email?

Uhm, no. (Although it arriving faster via email might have been a plus.)

The thing I love most about snail mail is the enduring quality of it.  The thoughtfulness of the screen-shot-2016-11-17-at-4-13-45-pmcomposition, as well as the giddy anticipation of getting something that’s not a bill or a piece of junk in the mail.  It was customized just for you, and a secret, enduring conversation between two parties.

No servers involved.

So, can you do me and the universe a solid this week and maybe write one to a friend, sig other, or maybe even a foe?  Grab a notecard and an old-fashioned inky pen and just go at it.  Buy a stamp. Get a funky envelope. SWAK it.  I did. You can too.

Skip the server…

Talking vs. Doing

Wednesday, November 16th, 2016

screen-shot-2016-11-16-at-6-53-39-pmThis skill set (talking vs. doing) ought to be a spectrum on the Myers-Briggs.

If you haven’t taken the MBTI before, it’s another “personality” test, that measures your personality.  I’m an INTJ, with emphasis on the I.

If I put the Talking vs. Doing on the end of the Myers Briggs, I’d be a INTJD.

Those who can talk have a special skill.  And after I spent over 2.5 hours talking online last night in my masterminds, I realized that I’m not really a talker.  I’m a doer.  Give me a jacked up inbox and watch me knock it out to inbox zero.  Give me a really gnarly problem and I’ll solve it.  Got a list of action items? Bring it.

Some say talk is cheap. I might be in that camp to some extent, but then again I’d prefer to stop talking about it and just do it.  Those who talk and those who do may be on opposite ends of the spectrum. Not sure.  I’m too busy doing.

Just don’t make me talk about it.

The 10 Year Shelf Life

Tuesday, November 15th, 2016

screen-shot-2016-11-15-at-5-18-48-pmLast evening, I had the chance to interview a gal, Mona Das of Moxy, for a new book I’m working on.  She said something I’m still trying to wrap my head around.

We discussed significant other relationships, and she actually phrased that personal sig other relationships typically only have a shelf life of 10 years or so.  When I asked her why, she replied that we change over time, and if we are changing and growing, people just often evolve and grow in different directions.  It almost made it sound as though if we weren’t breaking up each decade, it meant in a way that we aren’t growing.

I find this viewpoint utterly fascinating.  I tend to think a little differently about relationships overall as well.  I approach them like seasons – some people are meant to be around all 4, while others are just around for a season or two.  (And yes, I am still a sucker for a happy ending and the Hallmark Channel.  I just don’t know if it really exists in the long term.)

Having grown up in the traditional corn farmed Midwest, I always was raised (or at least had the perception) to think that the gold standard for finding a significant other meant ‘forever,’ or until the death parting thing.  But later on in life, as others divorced and their sig other relationships Chinua Achebed, my viewpoint changed.  Now, after Mona’s comment, I’m wondering if we aren’t moving on with significant others, are we not growing?  Are breakups actually a good thing for one’s self-actualization?  When we end a relationship, does this put us up higher on Maslow’s hierarchy?

I really don’t know.

Last Week to Work with Me in 2017/18!

Monday, November 14th, 2016

Messed. With. Texas.

Sunday, November 13th, 2016

screen-shot-2016-11-13-at-5-45-50-pmSo, I’m on my way home from Texas. It was bigger than I remembered. LOL!

Seriously – it’s great to get out of your life for a couple of days and immerse yourself somewhere else.  Making it even cooler, I saw a couple of old friends from my past, and did something I rarely do…historically reviewed parts of my life.

This is not normal for me. I’m typically a forward, future-focused, look-ahead and not-in-the-rear-view-mirror-kind of girl.  But with this tiny post and this amazing end to the week, I’m here to remind all of us, myself included, that it’s OK to go back every once in a while.

Besides, backward may just lead to the path forward…


Monday, November 7th, 2016

screen-shot-2016-11-07-at-6-49-05-amAfter attending the Women’s Campaign School at Yale a few years ago, I learned that campaigns have phases.  Right now, we’re in the “Get out the Vote (GOTV)” phase of our US elections, being that they officially are tomorrow.  This is the phase where everyone is just trying to get people to show up at the polling places…and vote.

I’m pretty sure that everyone has beaten this dead horse, and I’m not going anywhere near the POTUS candidates in this post to stir that pot anymore (I’m skipping Facebook until next Wednesday in peeking at my feed).  I did vote already–although I did throw up a little in the back of my mouth when I did.  And, don’t get me wrong, the “How to Move to Canada” posts get more interesting and eye catching as the election draws near.

But all that aside, my friends, I’m going to ask you to please get out and vote.  Vote for your least vile candidates.  Take the Tums and head to the polls.  Just do it.  Because people have fought and died for our right to vote.  Women in the US didn’t have the right to vote until 1920.  Nineteen Twenty, people!  That’s not that long ago.

Picking the least vile candidate is a right and a privilege in the US…so let’s be sure we don’t just throw in the towel and let someone else decide for us.  Picking the least vile is ALL OF OUR RESPONSIBILITY.

Happy Election Week!


2016 & 2017 Pharmacy Podcast Shows on YOUR Career Development!

Friday, November 4th, 2016

This is about to be a long post, but I wanted to put, in one place, all the 2016 & 2017 Pharmacy Podcast Shows for the fab 13, AND for your listening pleasure!

If you’re a pharmacist or leader in healthcare, IT, pharmacy practice and/or elsewhere, the following episodes will be of benefit to you.  And to all the guests during the year on the podcast, a SINCERE THANKS for helping us reach 60,000 listeners and for sharing the pharmacy healthcare love!

For the Class of 2017: Congratulations!

Manbassadors: Sponsors for Women in Healthcare

57 Cool Jobs for Pharmacists

SXSW 2017 – A Recap

InfoSAGE: Healthcare Informatics Leader Dr. Charles Safran

5 Steps to Manage Through a Career Crisis

HIMSS 17 Post Show

HIMSS 17 Pre Show

A Valentine for Women, Gender Parity and Leadership in Healthcare:

The Future of Work in Pharmacy & Healthcare Part I – With Special Guest, Jacob Morgan:

The Future of Pharmacy Work – Part II

Certifications for Pharmacists – Another Way to Enhance Your Pharmacy Career:

What is a Medical Science Liaison?:

7 Steps to a Super 2017:

“Men”toring Women – Why it is critical for Men to Mentor Women

Merry Midyear – 4 part miniseries coming to the podcast with Dr. Lauren Steinbach hi-jacking the mic:

5 Roads into Loving your retail pharmacy career – 5 part series:

The American Society for Pharmacy Law – an Intro with Aaron Moore:

5 Part series on the 5 Roads out of Retail Pharmacy:

Pharmacy as a Third Space – Tisane Pharmacy (NYC):

Disruptive Women in HIT – Mandi Bishop:

How to get more Leadership in Pharmacy – Alan Spies:

BU Well: A Student-Driven Multimedia Publication – Anne Leighty:

Unusual Career Paths in Pharmacy – Shaun Young of Ardina:

Feeling the Burn…Out – How to manage burnout in pharmacy:

Writing to Enhance Your Pharmacy Career – Dr. Elaine Voci

Maximizing Medical and Pharmacy Meetings – Kristin Eilenberg of Lodestone Insights: