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Archive for November, 2017

Swiping Right on Second Chances

Friday, November 17th, 2017

Screen Shot 2017-11-17 at 7.47.20 AMFor an app I’ve never used, I can’t tell you how many conversations I’ve had this week about swiping right on Tinder.  I actually had to look up that swipe right was the positive choice on Tinder, but I confirmed that yes – when you swipe right, that’s a plus/green light situation.

How many of us don’t like to swipe right on second chances? (My hand just went up.)  What’s that saying – “Fooled me once, shame on you, fooled me twice, shame on me”? I think that’s it. Anyway, sometimes we have to try and give a second chance to things that just didn’t work out the first time – for whatever reason(s) – bad timing, not a good fit, whatever.

The easier path (trust me, I’ve taken it more than my fair share of times) is to cut bait after the first try and fail. Don’t look back. There’s a reason it didn’t work out. Move on. Onward. Nail that SOB shut and move. On! (Yes, I’ve been accused of having too many hard limits. I probably should have made a T-shirt with #HardLimits on the front of it.)

However, the older I get, the more I realize that viewing the world in black and white is probably not the best way to view it–it can oversimplify things. Sometimes, gray intervenes and makes things a little more complicated than black or white. A “no” yesterday could mean all bets are off today. Maybe the other person just had a really bad day, week, month or year and took it out on you and your relationship. Maybe now is the time. Maybe if you swipe right on the second chance, it will be all green lights this time via the universe.

A better question to ask yourself: How does this situation/person/option make me feel? Do I get a warm and fuzzy from it, or is there something not right? Is the feeling compelling you to go for a take 2, or not?

As Brene Brown as I get: I sadly do not have all the answers. Just more questions…vulnerability at its finest!

My bottom line for you this week before our Thanksgiving: consider the option of swiping right if you’re like me with a bunch of hard limits. It may just open up a universe of possibility you never would have considered before.



My Favorite Things…Right Now

Wednesday, November 8th, 2017

This week was rough. Not gonna lie. So, when it gets tough, I just start Julie Andrews-ing it up. In here.

Here are a few of my favorite things…right now. (And no, no one is paying me for any endorsements here.)

1. I recently stayed at Hotel Valley Ho in Scottsdale. It was quirky and had its charms. One of my favorite charms of all was the Red Flower bath products – and specifically, icelandic moonflower.

2. Sparkles the Unicorn Shea-infused socks. Say that fast 3 times. Skip that and just buy a pair.

3. Prague – the one international destination I had on my goals list for this year that did not. Happen. Of course, Scotland did happen, and I’m grateful for it, with a bonus trip to Amsterdam.

4. Leonardo da Vinci – Walter Issacson – Until, of course I see how thick his books are when I get them at the library. Then I think, how might I ever get through it all? Then I think: how did HE ever write and edit it all? Then I fan girl and try my best to get through it. This is what will happen when my book shows up from the hold list.

5. 2018 – Got myself a new calendar today to plan ahead, and masterminding with the fabulous Dorie Clark as a super duper treat for myself in New York later in November. I am SO EXCITED for it and the possibilities in 2018!

…and then I don’t feel–so. Bad.


2 Mini Life Hacks

Friday, November 3rd, 2017

Yes, using the term “lifehacking” may be cheesy. But, here are two lifehacks I use to expand time.

1. My work uniform hack - I think I’ve written about this before – but I have my own work uniform. It consists of Rafaella Black pants (best fitting, hands down, Oprah was right), black T shirts (short sleeved in summer, long in winter) and several copies of the same black jacket that I wear to work (I won’t reveal my black jacket source – I don’t want the price to go up!) Pretty much every day. It saves my time AND decision making super powers, because I do believe that we only get so much decision making power in reserve, and we need to save it for things that matter. To me, I don’t want to think about coordinating a work outfit that is different every day. For variety, I switch up the color of scarf I wear. That’s it. I don’t go crazy.

2. My airplane notes hack – Everyone always wants to know how I manage to write hand written thank yous. Well, 1. I love it. and 2. I try to find the time when otherwise not available. So, plane rides are a GREAT way to knock out thank you notes. Just take a wad of them, with stamps, and start writing. When you get to the other side, address them and give them to the hotel to mail. Voila! A lighter load on the way home, a concentrated bit of time to write thoughtful notes while everyone else is watching crappy airplane TV.  (Sleeping might also be a great choice on planes, but I don’t sleep well on planes–so there’s that.)

The older I get, the more I realize that it’s the little things that make a HUGE difference.