There Comes A Time…
…in every woman’s life, where she just doesn’t sugar coat anymore. I think I had one of those breakthrough moments today.
Rumor on the street is this typically happens around age 40 for a woman (I’m frighteningly near that age)…that is, she knows who she is, she knows what she wants, and more importantly, she knows what she does NOT want. Such was the case for me today, while interviewing for a law school student position.
I didn’t sugar coat. I just shared my strengths, where I think I could benefit the organization, and was absolutely blunt about what I was NOT interested in doing.
This was big for me. Usually, (and I think a LOT of women ‘suffer’ from this)–we like to take on everything, because we feel sometimes that we HAVE to. Let’s face it–we have options and opportunities today that our moms NEVER even could consider. That is awesome, but with that comes a little guilt; in that sometimes, we feel although we have all these options, we must then also DO them all, if given the opportunity.
Today, that was not the case for me. I said it like I saw it, I didn’t sugar coat anything, and bluntly, it was what it was. Take it or leave it.
If I get the position I was going for, great. If not, that’s fine too. At least I won’t get roped into something I do NOT want to do. This is important, and I’m posting this one in particular for the Superladies out there who feel obligated to do it all. With the cape comes some extra guilt; but I’m here to tell you do NOT have to do stuff you don’t want to do, just because your previous generations didn’t get the chance. It is OK to say no. As I’ve shared before, one of my friends tells me liberally that there is a reason the letter “N” is next to the letter “O” in the alphabet. And, I’m getting to the age where I just don’t have the time or the energy to do anything but cut through the BS.
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