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Swiping Right on Second Chances

Friday, November 17th, 2017

Screen Shot 2017-11-17 at 7.47.20 AMFor an app I’ve never used, I can’t tell you how many conversations I’ve had this week about swiping right on Tinder.  I actually had to look up that swipe right was the positive choice on Tinder, but I confirmed that yes – when you swipe right, that’s a plus/green light situation.

How many of us don’t like to swipe right on second chances? (My hand just went up.)  What’s that saying – “Fooled me once, shame on you, fooled me twice, shame on me”? I think that’s it. Anyway, sometimes we have to try and give a second chance to things that just didn’t work out the first time – for whatever reason(s) – bad timing, not a good fit, whatever.

The easier path (trust me, I’ve taken it more than my fair share of times) is to cut bait after the first try and fail. Don’t look back. There’s a reason it didn’t work out. Move on. Onward. Nail that SOB shut and move. On! (Yes, I’ve been accused of having too many hard limits. I probably should have made a T-shirt with #HardLimits on the front of it.)

However, the older I get, the more I realize that viewing the world in black and white is probably not the best way to view it–it can oversimplify things. Sometimes, gray intervenes and makes things a little more complicated than black or white. A “no” yesterday could mean all bets are off today. Maybe the other person just had a really bad day, week, month or year and took it out on you and your relationship. Maybe now is the time. Maybe if you swipe right on the second chance, it will be all green lights this time via the universe.

A better question to ask yourself: How does this situation/person/option make me feel? Do I get a warm and fuzzy from it, or is there something not right? Is the feeling compelling you to go for a take 2, or not?

As Brene Brown as I get: I sadly do not have all the answers. Just more questions…vulnerability at its finest!

My bottom line for you this week before our Thanksgiving: consider the option of swiping right if you’re like me with a bunch of hard limits. It may just open up a universe of possibility you never would have considered before.