First, notice that I said “wall” and not “walk.”
Second, I was lamenting (yet again) on Faceplace the other day that to be rejected by email for an opportunity is one thing – but to follow it up with a snail mail is an extra torture that frankly in the electronic age isn’t necessary. But, with the rejection letter in physical form upon me, is it time to start a mirror to my Wall of Fame in my home office with a “Wall of Shame”?
My Wall of Fame I’ve written about before, as my loyal 13 fans know…but for the rest, it is a wall in my office that I dedicate to stuff that makes me laugh, smile, or feel gratitude for–I have a lot of thank you notes on it. I love it, because if I need a mental break for a second, I can just stroll by and think of all the happy memories.
Now, back to the Shame Wall. One of my friends said to start one, then immediately begin target practice on it with darts–polish up one skill with the pain from another. Friend two said skip it altogether…bad chi. Another suggested a firepit of shame. Yet another friend asked if ding letters were good for free cocktails at any establishments in Indy. (I told this friend that if she finds one, to let me know – I’ll be able to buy everyone a free first round–and maybe a second round….depending upon how many friends show up.)
Dan Pink I caught talking about this in his new book as well. He mentions there is now a way to send yourself a rejection letter, just to prepare yourself mentally, or if you get a little too big for your britches. Here’s a site that has several “flavors” of rejection letters, which I think was originally for writers to prepare themselves for the onslaught of rejection letters from publishing houses.
I don’t know if I have a happy ending to this post, other than to ask the questions–Why do I feel weird about rejection? Shouldn’t I be celebrating it instead? What am I learning from the process (other than, of course, a healthy dose of humble pie)? I guess my brain just keeps going back to Thomas Edison and his 10,000 light bulbs.
What do you think? Should we have more celebration of failure? SHOULD I start that Wall of Shame? Hmm…..